Posted in Baby Foxes

Zen is 2!

A very happy birthday to the youngest Fox in the den.


Today is bittersweet for me as I am proud of my little boy growing up and at the same time I am sad because no matter how you try to look at it he doesn’t qualify as a baby anymore but he will still be MY baby!



Posted in Bandora

On being a healthier hippie

For most of my life I took pride on being a lazy couch potato, I used to consider breastfeeding to be enough of a workout. For the first 3 decades I could afford to eat anything and do nothing and still have a nice body. Then I had kids and turned 30….
couch potato
My husband used to encourage me to take advantage of the Planet fitness $10 a month promotion but I knew that I didn’t have the willpower to stick with it so why bother wasting money on it. In the past I had lived in complexes with free gyms and I never used them, not even once.

So when my husband used to go to the gym and brag about walking 3 miles in 1 hour on the treadmill I was all “that’s great honey! I’lll be here eating cheetos on the couch and watching Netflix on my Kindle”. Sometimes hubby would try to encourage me to go on a family walk and I would try everything in my power to get out of it and grumble about it the whole time if I was coaxed into going. Whenever a friend would post a sweaty selfie on Facebook bragging about their PDX90 or Insanity workout I would think “wow, I admire their dedication, I could never do that”. When another friend had their Fitness Pal/RunKeeper/(insert fitness app name) here update Facebook about the X miles biked/ran/walked or XXX calories burned I would think “I don’t have that in me, think god/dess was out of the will power ingredient when I was being made”.

I have never believed in diets because they require willpower that I don’t have, I knew that as soon as I cheated once I would give up. it takes too long to see results and the weight comes back as soon as you stop dieting. I was too lazy to exercise because I hate being hot and sweaty and I was scared of pain from past knee and back injuries. Additionally now that I know that I have Diastasis Recti I also had to be very careful as many exercises are not compatible with that condition. ¬†While Weight Watchers looks doable and comes highly recommended, I don’t have the budget for even the cheapest plan. I am not against walking but living in Florida it’s too hot and humid for my taste and we go back to hot and sweaty.

Lately seeing as I have been my heaviest non pregnant weight ever and even though I can still wear regular sizes I had been climbing up the double digits getting closer to the plus size department that I decided that I needed to at least stop the gain. Besides, I want to at least try to be around to see my kids grow up and with my family history of heart disease I can’t count on genes to help me.

I knew that if I set a goal that would take too long to achieve I would be discouraged and quit so I decided against any ambitious “go back to prepregnancy weight” or “run a 5k” goals. Instead I made small, bite size, easily achievable goals as follows:

  • stop gaining weight
  • eat smaller portions
  • make better snack choices
  • drink more water
  • be more physically active
  • Bonus goal (no pressure) lose 1/2 pound per week

To help me do this I started using the free My Fitness Pal app just over a month ago. Logging everything I eat every day helps me be more conscious about my food choices. Seeing how many net calories I have left towards the end of the day allows me to plan indulgent treats without feeling like I am cheating. The app gives me an incentive to be active because the calories burned from that brisk walk may just give me enough extra calories in that day to indulge that cookie craving.

The next step was to find a way to become more active. While it is true that you don’t need to spend money to exercise, there are some things that do make it easier and in my case I needed to get rid of as much temptation to make excuses as possible. I was dreading exercising because my $7 sneakers looked cool but were uncomfortable. It was important to upgrade so after cashing in Swagbucks that I had been accumulating for almost 3 years and hard work shopping for the best coupons and discounts I scored some Skechers sneakers for spare change that look cool AND are comfortable, what a difference!

Last month we still had spring weather in Florida so it wasn’t hard to walk to the park with the boys and burn extra calories by pushing a double stroller. Sadly summer always arrives early in Florida so that option is no longer enticing and the kids agree as now they complain that it’s too hot for the playground.

Thankfully my husband had purchased an xBox 360 Kinect system for Yule and had purchased Your Fitness Shape Evolved 2012 for his use. Even though he hasn’t used it like he planned, I have found this to be the perfect solution for me. Being able to exercise at my convenience in my own living room with a program that doesn’t push me if I don’t want it to. With workouts ranging from 2-15 minutes each I could start easy and couldn’t use the “I don’t have time excuse”.

Adopting the “some exercise is better than none at all mentality” enabled me to feel good about exercising for only 5 minutes 3 times a week instead of aiming for some unrealistic goal such as exercising for 30 minutes 5 times a week because when you are a mother of 2 it’s not easy to find a 30 minute chunk of time to exercise. I am now able to work out for 10-20 minutes several times a week (children permitting) without running out of breath and usually stop because the kids need me and not because I have to catch my breath. In an ironic twist of fate now I am the one suggesting family walks to my husband.

This week I added yet another helpful tool to my quest for a healthier life. After reading The Feminist Breedeer’s post about her quest to go from couch potato to runner I felt like I greatly identified with her. She wrote about how the Fitbit Flex wireless tracker helped her get motivated so I decided to look into it more.


At first I was turned off by the price so I gave up on the idea, later on that day Groupon had a deal on a similar device from a different brand that I almost bought until I was turned off by the reviews, same with yet another tracker from a different brand that was on clearance at Target for $38 down from $130, too good to be true as the online reviews were not favorable. I searched all over the Internet and the weekly ads for every store that I could think of trying to find a cheap Fitbit but even with sales and coupons it would be over $80 after tax.

Lucky for me, it’s by birthday month and a relative sent me a generous cash gift early. After 3 consecutive days obsessing about wanting a Fitbit I decided to use the gift to get one and took advantage of a sale where I got the Fitbit at regular price but $30 worth of accessory wristbands for free.

It’s been just over 48 hours and I love my Fitbit so far, despite it not syncing with my phone like I hoped (my fault for not reading the fine print and realizing that my cheap POS phone is not an approved device) it easily syncs automatically anytime I am within bluetooth range of my computer and I can view the results on the app on my phone and Kindle. It syncs automatically with My Fitness Pal so I get “credit” for the many extra calories I burn while doing laundry or playing with the boys, activities I don’t log as exercise on MFP. The fact that it tracks my sleep is really cool, it turns out that I am not sleep deprived like I thought.

So where am I after 1 month in this journey?
Thanks to My Fitness Pal I can track not only my weight but also my measurements. I started off losing almost 3 pounds in 1 week. Then PMS bloating struck and I gained 2.8 pounds of water weight literally overnight, who knew we retained so much water?! While now I am at only 1 pound lost, I have lost 2 inches on my waist and hips. I have found that I am better adapted to eating smaller portions of food so when I go to a restaurant I am unable to finish the oversized dish when I used to clean the plate in the past. To my own surprise the other day I found myself craving and thus eating a salad while the rest of the family ate pizza for dinner.

Where will this journey lead me?
It’s hard to tell, I don’t see myself signing up for a 5k or showing off toned abs, with my DR and stretch marks I don’t aim for a bikini body but I think that the fact that I am not aiming too high is what will help me stick to this long term and hopefully turn this into a lifestyle change instead of a short term fad, we’ll see….

Posted in Team Fox


It has been a while so I’ll give a recap… In the last couple of months we moved to a new house. One that is in a (supposedly) safer and quiet community (so quiet that we didn’t hear fireworks on New Years) and is right next to a park. It is a 2 story house villa which I love despite the inconveniences that living in a 2 story unit with kids brings.

One of these inconveniences is that our computers are upstairs while I spend most of my time downstairs with the boys. This meant that every time I felt inspired to write something it didn’t happen because the computer was no longer in the living room like I was used to. To try to remedy that I have a bluetooth keyboard now so I can write on my Kindle Fire without cursing the touchscreen keyboard’s existence.

Babyproofing a set of stairs when renting can be challenging. We have a pressure mounted gate at the bottom of the stairs which although it won’t stop Zen if he is determined to go up, it does work well as a deterrent and keeps them from trying to play on the stairs. The top of the stairs is still open and after 3 months it hadn’t been an issue until last week when Zen figured out how to climb down, at least he did it safely!

At our new house we converted the master bedroom into a computer/play room and chose a secondary bedroom as our sleeping room. This room has wall to wall mattresses on the floor and no other furniture making it the perfect cosleeping space.

Cosleeping heaven- wall to wall sleeping space (pardon the mess)
Cosleeping heaven- wall to wall sleeping space (pardon the mess)

During this time Shammy has made excellent homeschooling process. Since he is only 3 years old I wasn’t pushing any curriculum or lessons, just trying the whole homeschooling thing on for size and it’s been working very well. Shammy is now able to read at a primary school level and is starting to write. I admit to using a lot of technology tools such as ABCMouse for math and social science and Kindle Fire apps for writing. We do reading the old fashioned way though in addition to e-books.

While the holiday season was very enjoyable, it also meant the end of the daycare that the boys were attending 1 day a week while I worked at the WIC office. I didn’t expect it to be so hard to find alternate care but it has turned into a 3 month nightmare. Despite the things we didn’t like about the old daycare we now miss it because it has been so hard to find anything after searching for so long with no luck. Granted, we may have higher standards and a lower budget than some parents but it had never been this hard to find the right match. In the meantime my mother in law has helped out but I can’t count on that as a long term solution and I fear that we may reach the point when I may be faced with having to quit my job (which only has me out of the house 1 day week) because of this.

I did the math and working full time after factoring the cost of daycare and other expenses wouldn’t allow me to provide any extra contribution to the household budget than I do now unless I got a REALLY good paying job, something that doesn’t exists in this area.